Posts tagged: How To Get What You Really Want?

Yesterday we talk about why a old man is old because of his thinking, today we are going to touch on Focus, The power of concentration. I actually got some feedback from friends that its really hard to understand the information i put out, do leave a comment below to let me know how i can improve. This chapter on how to get what you really want is first to identify what you really want, which many might say, money, fame or fast car. However example in the first part of the chapter shows celebrity and successful people killing themselves even thou they are rich and loved by many. We also found out why they ended their life. The goal to get what you really want is actually to be able to control your emotions regardless what situation comes.

You can get depressed now just by focusing on a past experience that was horrible to you. Start picturing it, think about it pretty soon you will be able to feel it. If today you when to a lousy movie, will you choose to go back and watch it again? I bet you won’t but many of us are doing this inside our own head everyday and we often focus in advance and predict what is going to happen and after that we get depressed in advance for things that haven’t happen. Funny? But we are doing this to ourselves in a day to day basis. We can be sad, so can we control our focus and be happy? Of course you can!

Whatever we focus on becomes our idea of reality. Focus is not reality, think of your focus as a camera, its only one view, one person perception. If you when to a party with your camera, and the area you sat on had a group of people fighting, how would the party be represented? Unpleasant, frustrating? No one is having a good time and everyone was fighting? However you must always remember there is also another side of the party that is having fun, telling jokes and everyone is having a good time.

Meaning is often a matter of focus. If you scheduled a business meeting and the other person is late. How you feel will be determine but what meaning you focus on. You can be thinking that the other person don’t care or you can think that the person is having difficulties to come to the meeting. Whatever we focus on determines how we feel, we shouldn’t jump into conclusions and choose what we focus on carefully. Focus on where you want to go, not on your fear. A Racer when about to crash gotta focus his attention on the direction he wants to go and not on the wall that he is about to crash in. If you look at your fear, you will have no chance in avoiding the crash but if you focus on where you want to go, your chances of success immediately increase by 10fold. Not saying you will succeed but if you focus on fear you 100% will fail. “Ask and you shall receive. Seek and you will find. Knock and it will be opened to you.”

The most powerful way to control your focus is by asking questions. You can ask why is this person taking advantage of me? then you will be thinking that you got taken advantage of, weather is it true or not. However if You ask how can we turn this around? You will get a more empowering answer! A good example is this kid who got bullied in school, he when home thinking i am going to kill that bully, i am going to kill that bully and took his mother gun out. He when searching for the target and finally he found that bully, he took aim and suddenly a question came to his head. What will happen to me if i pull the trigger. He imagine that he will be in jail, with other prisoner and have to stay up all night incase he get rape inside. The potential pain was greater than what revenge can bring and he shift his aim and shot the tree instead.

The most important take away from this chapter is, All that you really want in life is to change how you feel. All your emotions are nothing but biochemical storms in your brain, and you are in control of them at any moment in time. you can feel esctasy right now, or you can feel pain or depressed, its all up to you. You don’t need drugs or anything else to do it. 

Its Monday and i am excited to start my week! Are you excited or feeling sleepy at your office now? Don’t worry today 10 min Read is going to spike you up!

Many of us have been living our life, chasing a dream or goal that in the end might not be what we are looking for. Like Elvis Presley who is such a successful superstar and being loved by million of people who actually killed himself. According to Elvis’s half brother David Stanley, Elvis much preferred being drugged and numb to being conscious and miserable. There many other successful people like Elvis who ended their own life. They have all the money they wanted, they are loved by millions of people, why would they do that?

1. They didn’t know what they really wanted out of life, so they distracted themself with artificial mood alterants (Drugs, Alcohol, Smoking)
2. They developed not just neurological pathways, but expressways to pain. And these habits were driving them down these highways on a regular basis. The pain they are having is far more than the love and money they are getting.
3. They didn’t know how t make themselves feel good, so they had to turn to outside forces to help them deal with the present.
4. They never learn how to control their pain and pleasure and often let the surrounding control how they should be feeling.

So it comes to our important question What Do You Want?
What do you truly want in your life? Do you want a loving marriage, the respect of your children? Do you want plenty of money, fast cars, a thriving business? Whatever you desire or crave for you need to ask yourself “Why do i want these things?” You want fine cars, for example is because you desire the feeling that you are successful? What it all comes down to is the fact that you want these things or results because you see them as a means to achieving certain feelings, emotions, or states that you desire.

When some on kisses you do you feel good in that moment? Is it wet tissue touching wet tissue that triggers that feeling? If you think yes, then kissing a dog will get you excited. All of our emotions are nothing but a flurry of biochemical storms in our brains and we can spark them at any moment. But first we must learn how to take control of them consciously instead of living in reaction! 

Have you ever found yourself unable to remember your friends name? Or find it difficult to spell a simple word like .. house? How come you are unable to do it? You knew the answer for sure, its because you are in a stupid state. The difference between acting badly or brilliantly is not based on your ability, but on the state of your mind and/or body in any given moment. Your behaviour is not the result of your ability, but of the state that you’re in at this moment.

All the sensations that you want are available all of the time, and all you got to do is to tune to the right channel. How can we do that?

Physiology : The Power Of Movement
Emotion is created by motion or E-Motion = Energy in motion. Everything that we feel is as a result of how our body move. Try something ridiculous with me for a second. Pretend you are in a rather bored and humorless symphony conductor rhythmically swinging your arms in and out. Do it very slowly. Don’t get too excited; just do it as a matter of routine and make sure your face reflects a state of boredom. Notice how that feel and Now Clap your hands and give a big silly grin on your face, notice how fast your state changes in seconds. Every emotion you feel has a specific physiology linked to it.

Anyone can continue to feel good if they are already feeling good, the real key is to make yourself feel good when you don’t feel like it. We all have the capacity to make changes anytime. Just by changing our physiology, we can change our level of performance. Our capability is always there and what we have got to do is put ourselves into states where it is accessible.

A old person is old because he think he is old and move like he is old. Lack of movement is death! If you see children in the rain and they saw a puddle of water what do you think they will do? They are going to jump in! They are going to laugh and have fun. Now when we grow up what do we do? We walk around it, we complain. Make feeling good your expectations, you don’t need to have any reason to feel good, you are alive, you can feel good for no reason at all!

Hope this short 10min inspired you! Part 2 will be coming tomorrow, i am excited for tomorrow topic. Its on focus. Where focus goes energy flows. I strongly encourage anyone and everyone to get a copy of Tony’s book Awaken the giant within it changes my life. You can get it through my link below! I will get a few cents from it but you will get a life time of knowledge.